My Princess Diary

ReSpEcT

saw a talk show hosted by kym and bryan tt day.
its abt couple respecting each other. children and parents respecting each other.
"so what is respect?" asked the 2 hosts.

then a scenrio was being played out
kym is bryan's gf
they went to a pub
and kym wore a short skirt and bryan was very unhappy abt it
and kept commenting abt it and then gave kym a pillow to cover her "lovely" legs
then bryan asked "what u want to drink?" and kym went "u help me order. thanks"
then bryan said "ok i get u orange juice" and kym went "fine."
then kym's friend popped by while bryan was away getting their drinks
and the guy was touching kym's hair and commenting tt it was a nice hairstyle and her dressing very nice
and then kym said "thanks"
when bryan came back, he was unhappy and i mean very unhappy. it was shown on his face and kym's friend quickly made a retreat
then bryan went "why he leave so quickly? "xin xu" is it?"
then kym went "what u mean? didn't u heard, he said tt he needs to go"
then bryan went "who is he? why he touched u?"
then kym went "he was my long time neighbour. we played together when we were young"
then bryan went " u sure he is neighbour? neighbour can touch u meh? neighbour then why so fast leave when he sees me"
then kym got angry and then told him "i dun want to talk to u. u so unreasonable"
then she drinks her water and she said "i thought u want said u get me orange juice. why now is 7-up?"
then bryan went " i want u to drink 7-up now can or not?"
then kym kept silence

then scene 2, bryan's gf no. 1 popped over
a fat lady. and she was like touching bryan whenever they were talking
but when bryan intro kym as his gf to her, she left immediately

then bryan's gf no. 2 came along
this time, is a slender lady lor
and bryan and her like very good friend like tt. bryan asked kym to move aside so tt the girl can sit beside him. and then the girl told bryan tt she is unemployed now and just broke up with her bf. so bryan commented tt she so poor thing.and she said its all bryan's fault for not wanting her as his gf lor. so she needs to go look for other guys. and then bryan told her tt he will help her get a job and will call her on sat. then she thank him and left
all these while, the two of them were like "in their own world" and didn't bother abt kym at all.

then kym asked bryan "who are they?"
then bryan went "friends"
then she said "friends like this meh? friends can touch here and there?"
then bryan went "we very good friends. neighbours last time"
then kym went "u sure or not? neighbours? very good friends"
and bryan went "ya"
and then show ended.

respect!!! where is the respect lor......pui.....u dun leave ur partner aside or should i said cast ur partner aside when u saw ur friends lor. must at least "respect" her/him as ur partner and intro to ur friends. and how could u touch here touch there in front of ur partner lor. even if u dun respect ur partner, at least, at the very most, PLEASE respect yourself. dun make urself so cheap lor. unless u two really very closed like brothers and sisters. then nothing to say lah. but make sure u r really closed until like brothers and sisters lor. dun just say say and think u rite....coz some ppl are really MY FOOT lor!! what kind of shitty reason is tt "she just broke off with her bf so as a friend i go comfort her lor. tts all. nothing one!!" bloody pork lor. u think i cukoo or what!! if u have time then accompany me, spend time with me why with her? i am afterall GF and what is she??? no time for gf, but got time for a lovelorn girl........forget it lor....pui....

i guess even if u dun know how to respect, at least got some basic respect rite? if u r attached, at least, claimed tt u r lor. dun go tell ppl tt u are single and available!! this is definitely a no no respect lor.

anyway, then i thought abt myself.....dear was always so accomodating....hehehe
he doesn't bother abt what i wear or how i wear. the only think he commented tt was i no wear make up and doesn't dress up. and i always have to tell him since i wear make up on every weekday, on weekends, i prefer to let my skin breathe. but he just won't get it!!! and he said i dun dress up, but who doesn't want to dress up, but dressing up needs $$$, and u know me!! i am so so stingy to spend on clothings. i rather and prefer to spend on FOOD!!! so we had our share of quarrels abt this so i tried my best to put on make up on weekends, but for the past 1 yr, i guess i took the risk and so far so good. TOUCH WOOD!!

and talking abt food/ drinks. he always let me have the final say. i get to decide what to eat when his mama no cook. i decide what to eat, he will bring me there. so i guess, this is respect bah. still boils down to give and take. give each other "face" when outside. want to quarrel, do it at home but not in PUBLIC!!

so many ways to show tt u respect your partner lor. go think abt it. its those littel little details tt u dun care abt tt really matters. in my humble opinion, even by paying attention to what ur partner says is also a form of respect.

then this bring me to another story. when i went for rebonding tt day, i was flipping thru the mag. then i came across this article, which i forgot what's the rationale of the article is abt. anyway, its abt this cha bo and her bf. they have been together for yrs but no mentioning abt marriage. the guy was busy working and the girl was like whenever she has problems, she turned to him but he always brushed her off telling her to take it easy or its nothing. so the girl felt "unloved" or whatever lah. and she "pek chey" so she just worked hard to pay her credit bills and he worked hard for whatever reason. so in other words, they worked hard for different reasons. then one fine day, the girl gotten a job to go overseas and the guy got a special bonus from co. dilema rite? well, apparently, the guy went to tell the girl "lets go buy a flat now." and the girl told him "sorry. bye bye. tts not wat she wants".....who loser who winner in the end, i also dun know........and this remind me of what honey once told me. think its something like "its ok as long as he has plans for the both of us. but at least must keep me informed of his plans. not he just plan his own things and then expect me to just wait for dun know what." this i totally agreed. who knows what u planning to do if u dun open the mouth and say lor. nobody will knows what u want or think unless u say. u think b/w 2 ppl really got telepathy meh? no matter how closed the couples are, i do believe COMMUNICATION is still very impt. and also at least plan with your partner in your mind. dun plan things and she/him is never in the plan. i guess, this is also respect??

anyway, honey and i did discussed abt this sometime back. when i asked her abt "when the wedding" so i think, if my memory no failed me, she said "no hurry but at least eric has plans for both of them" and she is also the one who said tt must tell the person what u r planning or gg to plan, keep the person in the loop lor. dun just go plan and then end of the day, instead of giving the surprise, u r the surprised!! =))

i told dear abt this article when we went fishing just now. as usual, he always think tt when i tell him something, there is a hidden message behind it. but i simply just want to tell him the article which i read. so simple as tt, why he always read into so much things? perhaps his past r/s are like this......he did not read into it so he gotten into "trouble" hehehe......=))

posted by yee2 @ Sunday, January 06, 2008